The Myth of the Man!

    
Growing up, I was told a myth. The myth described a world in which every man on earth was out to get me. These men, I was told would only use me up....hurt me, abuse me and leave me feeling foolish. But I, like most women still desired to know these 'creatures' called men: and thankfully found that this myth is false.  I found that by interacting with these 'creatures', I would learn a lot about myself.

I experienced the exploration of love; love of self, love of others and more importantly the love of God. And even in the times when I did fall, I realized that I was not suffering through it alone. I shared in the blame of the demise of the relationship, and my male companions bore a burden themselves. They too experienced a cycle of hurt, a type of confusion, and then forgiveness. So why is it that this myth continues to thrive in our society? Why do we tell our daughters, sisters, and nieces that our sons, brothers and nephews are our enemies? Nothing could be further from the truth. Share your thoughts: Have you been exposed to this myth? If so, how have your experiences proved or disproved it?

 

 
By: Monique Etienne

Comments

[Monique Etienne]

I agree with both responses. We are ultimately responsible of whether we will gain or lose in our relationships. Like you said Tina, we must have a reference for love. That is why I think it is important for people not to be raised with the notion that we should expect relationships to be painful, because that creates fear that will inhibit our ability to be vulnerable. Like Shannon said we tend to panic, and in a panicked state we are defensive, which makes it difficult to nurture the positive things in our relationships. Thanks for sharing!

[Tina]

Our defense mechanism tricks us into thinking that it’s safer to experience pain and anger. Love requires a vulnerability that many are afraid to exhibit. What many of us fail to realize is that love begins with one’s self not your mate. We teach people how to treat us, so if you are being treated poorly by someone, you should reflect on the way you treat yourself. Our daughters, sisters, nieces, sons, brothers and nephews all want to experience love, but if our homes consistently remain broken they will not have a reference of what positive love looks like. A wonderful man/woman is not a myth, but the acknowledgement begins with you the individual.

[shannon smith]

Monique I think that we as people tend to tense up when it comes to something we cant beat or figure out!! In panic we tend to file it under an enemy category and spread the word about it!! Just think have you ever had bad service from a fast food joint whether its cold service or cold chicken? Sure, you tell yourself never ever again will I go there and you wont for a very long time but the fact of the matter is that we just dont wanna risk getting hurt or in this case getting bad service!! I say we should go for what we want lets not be that cold chicken that we were so upset about!!!!lol